CAN YOU SAY I AM MARRIED TO A PORN ADDICT OR SEX ADDICT ...Husband or Wife?
MARRIAGE SURVIVAL KIT 101
Have you ever ask yourself…this question.
“Why did I attract this person into my life?”
I know your time is valuable, so I’ll get straight to the point:
The answer is surprisingly simple…and has everything to do with YOU and your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.
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Your subconscious mind has what are called “unconscious polarized issues” that are “Anchor beliefs” coming from your childhood.
These subconscious ‘programs’ and your husband/wife/partner’s issues are like magnets attracting each other...
...And strangely enough...BY resolving these SUBCONSCIOUS programs…it is exactly what is needed to ‘heal’ your self, possibly your partner and overcome your current relationship issues… Understand this and you are on the road to Personal Freedom.
SEE IF THIS SOUNDS LIKE YOU… • My worthiness feelings about myself stem from receiving approval from someone else • Other people’s struggles affect my tranquility • My mental attention focuses on solving others problems/relieving others pain • My good feelings (about myself) developed from being liked by someone else • My mental attention is focused on others • My fear of others anger controls what I say or do • My psychological attention is focused on manipulating others to do it my way • Relieving others pain reinforces my self-esteem • My own hobbies/interests are put to one side for other people • My timetable is spent sharing others hobbies/interests • Others clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires and I feel others are a reflection of myself • Others behavior is dictated by my wishes and I feel others are a image of me • My emotional attention is focused on protecting others • I am not aware of my feeling deep inside • Solving others problems bolsters my self-esteem • I am aware of how others feel. • I am not conscious of what I want • I ask what others want • I assume the aspirations I have for my future are linked to others • My fears of rejection governs what I say or do • I use charitable acts as a way of feeling safe in my relationships • I put my personal values aside in order to connect with others • I value others opinion and others ways of doing things more than my own • The worth of my life is in relation to the quality of others
If these sounds anything like you…then you’re likely Codependent.
Codependency is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioral condition that is learned and then stored in the subconscious…it affects your ability to have a healthy relationship with others.
Codependents generally are in (or develop) emotionally destructive relationships that are one-sided; pleasing oriented and therefore become abusive.
Many Psychotherapists now call codependency: “A Relationship Addiction”. Codependency can also manifest as Love Addiction, Avoidant or Dependent Personality Disorder or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. There is a CURE!
You may not-yet-have-experienced…
…YOUR POWER TO CHANGE!
I’ll explain the Empowering Counseling Method that worked for me—with a proven success rate.
foot notes: If you suppose you are a porn abuser, or if you are concerned that someone you know may be a mature abuser, here is information that will help.
About Pornography Addiction
Pornography habit has its origins in the looking at and holding on to of journal and movie porn. However, nowadays mature lovers have new and frighteningly powerful enablers: the On the internet, Smartphones on the market, and social networking.
Porn lovers today can feast their On the internet mature issue by looking at online still photos, getting mature videos, or by having web camera sex (paid and unpaid). Some use the On the internet to simply view pictures while others eventually end up using the On the internet as a vehicle to meet with unknown sex-related lovers. The ‘new media’ of smartphones offers some lovers instant phone-based mature downloads available along with wherever/whenever live movie loading of sex-related activities, while Myspace can leave some touring pictures and information for time on end.
What is mature addiction?
Similar to someone with a chemical or material habit, mature lovers usually change essential interactions and expenses with their “drug” of choice: porn. Non-Internet mature lovers can be discovered in places like remove clubs and mature book stores, but it is unlikely that they have a remove club habit or an mature book store habit, but rather that they have consistent and uncontrollable sex-related dysfunctions that reveal in different ways.
Pornography lovers usually separate themselves when interesting in their sex-related working out. They can typically spend many time or even times missing in two-dimensional pictures and encounters. Some also drop a chance to On the internet habits such as online dream movie games and/or gaming websites.
Nonsexual On the internet habit can also be shateringly identifying, causing actual life repercussions for the person passionate to gaming online or dream movie games, but On the internet mature habit also has a significant preconception and the likelihood that essential really like and sex interactions will be badly affected.
While some sex and mature lovers use uncontrollable self pleasure as a aspect of their working out, others engage only minimally in the sex act itself but however end up drop themselves to the limitless sex-related pictures and websites aquired online.
Some indication of mature habit can include:
• An inability to quit the behavior(s) and mature use despite previous efforts to do so
• Anger or becoming easily irritated if asked to stop
• Hiding or attempting to keep key all or a aspect of the mature use
• Living a double or key life related to porn
• Continuing the conduct despite obvious repercussions, such as a relationship or job loss
• Getting missing in the issue mature use (i.e., spending a longer period than intended, losing time)
Getting Better
Recovery from mature habit requires loyalty and outreach. For those passionate to mature and sex-related working out, loyalty starts by finding someone knowledgeable working with sex-related habit and recognizing entire the issue to them without omitting the unpleasant or unpleasant parts. Such people can be discovered in the 12-step sex-related restoration events and through professional companies such as SASH and IITAP, which have results of sex-related habit professionals. The Sexual Recovery Institution focuses on the treatment of porn habit, and we offer a private analysis to help you move to the next phase.
Getting help with mature habit can feel embarrassing, unpleasant, or unpleasant, but those feelings have to be accepted when the greater concern is that the porn habits will significantly intervene in the daily lifetime of the sex abuser or in the lives of those they really like.
The sex abuser involved in internet mature habit often has to arrive at to his or her own conclusion to make a change, a decision that often comes a lot later than their lovers would like or can withstand.
Porn habit help tips
Below are listed a few guidelines for dealing with mature addiction:
• Talking about the issues in detail with a respected friend or specialist who will be as sincere with you as you are sincere with them.
• Making an habit avoidance plan to carry out when enticed (see Sexual Sobriety)
• Putting monitoring devices on your mobile phone and computer so others (best not a spouse) can observe internet behavior
• Knowing indication of mature habit, both the general symptoms and those specific to you
• Knowing the stages of mature addiction
• Making good use of mature habit resources such as 12-step events, sex habit professionals, an internet-based restoration support groups